personal / 14/12/2017

2017: the year that was

I had a bit of uncertainty doing this post again, but after reading the nicest message from a follower last week who said my post inspired and challenged her, I decided to carry on. I’m also not sure if this is my last blog post for the year. I’m undecided if I should do something on iPhone X.

If you’re new to my blog, you can see how I’ve matured over the years: 2009201020112012201320142015, and 2016. (Always cringe at myself from years ago). If you have a blog or not, feel free to do your own reflection post either in the comment below or tag me from your platforms, would love to read it. 

1. What did you do in 2017 that you’d never done before?

Asked to get paid for my time that’s not writing related; kept it a complete secret and surprised my nephew+family for his birthday party at the last minute; drifted and drag raced; ate interesting stuff in South Korea (stingray, lotus flower roots, abalone); successfully cut down eating meat (I cook veg/fish dishes at home & limit eating meat at restaurants); got selective about who and what I associate myself with (deeper than you think); and tried archery for the first time in my life – hit a few bull’s-eye!

2. Did you keep your new years’ resolutions, and will you make more for next year?

I think you know the answer to this one.

3. How will you be spending New Year’s Eve?

I will be in Vietnam with my family but not sure what I will be doing exactly, I mean last year I was asleep in Rio at midnight. I’m basically a granny now.

4. Did anyone close to you die?

No.

5. What countries did you visit?

Spain, South Korea, Bermuda, and USA (twice).

6. What would you like to have in 2018 that you lacked in 2017?

More time for myself, but I’m working on it.

7. What date from 2017 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?

29 September – the day my nephew was born, and expecting another niece or nephew in the next couple of days insha Allah.

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?

Making it on the Inspiring Fifty list that showcases Women in Technology in South Africa, by the Netherlands Embassy. I got to meet Science and Technology minister Naledi Pandor at the celebration event. And a close second is seeing my name in print for all the publications I’ve been asked to contribute towards (top tip: you are your CV).

9. What was your biggest failure?

Not addressing issues that needed to be addressed.

10. Did you suffer illness or injury?

Thankfully nothing major.

11. What was the best thing you bought?

My iPhone X of course!

12. Where did most of your money go?

My iPhone X of course!

13. What song will always remind you of 2017?

The intro song to Big Little Lies (Obviously I found it on Apple Music and it’s part of my offline playlists now).

14. What do you wish you’d done more of?

I could always do more charity.

15. What do you wish you’d done less of?

Wasted my energy on those who didn’t deserve it.

16. What was your favourite TV program?

Big Little Lies 

17. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?

Not really hate…

18. What was the best book you read?

Hit Refresh by Satya Nadella (Microsoft CEO – excellent read!)

19. What was your greatest musical discovery?

I don’t go into an office so I have nobody to recommend new stuff for me haha! I’ve listened to my same fav ol’ artists.

20. What was your favourite film of this year?

Thor Ragnorak (let it be known at the time of writing this, I have not watched Star Wars: The Last Jedi – going tomorrow, 15th December).

21. What did you do on your birthday?

My birthday this year was fortunately several days’ of celebrations but the actual day involved so many spoils and treats for myself. I am grateful for the people I have in my life.

22. What kept you sane?

A group of very special women in my life who help me get through the worst of times, celebrate the best of times, and everything in between.

23. Who did you miss?

My grandmother.

24. Who was the best new person you met?

I constantly get to meet new people because of what I do, and I hate picking a favourite.

25. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2017:

Always trust your instincts. I’ve always been a good judge of character fortunately from when I was a young adult and never allowed negative people into my life who would drag me down, or if I could see through someone’s bullshit, I wouldn’t entertain it. This year, I opened my eyes to things that were always carrying on and finally realised, no more; this is across personal, and business. I don’t need inquisitive people in my life, or the ones who don’t have my best interests, or those who put me down through words or actions. I also don’t need people trying to “help” or offer “advice” to me when I don’t ask for it, which says more about a person than they realise. Stay in your lane. 

Oh if you turn off notifications from all messaging apps, life goes on perfectly. I suspect 2018 will be an even greater year of disconnect for me, it will allow me to be more in control of my time. I don’t even check my phone as often as I used to. I usually pick up an Android and look at stuff from there, where I don’t get personal messages on. I won’t lie, it has not been easy for me, but I’ve cut down on what I post on Instagram particularly. I think knowing stuff disappears in 24 hours previously allowed me to post more than I should have. 

That said, I am looking forward to 2018.

If you’ve read this far, and if you are inclined to answer the same questions, feel free to do so, here or on your platforms. Let me know where to find it 🙂



Nafisa Akabor
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  • Mark Patterson

    Interesting as always